Your brain on sugar

The mysterious workings of the adolescent brain - Sarah-Jayne Blakemore

Can You Always Believe the Children?

In this video, John Stossle presents a little piece of research on how children remember things, and how this effects the stories some children tell about child sexual abuse.  Unlike what we have believed in the past (that children never lie about having been sexually abused) some children can be influenced to make up and actually believe stories that never really happened.  The more the story is repeated over time, the more likely it will be stored in the child's memory as the truth.  This research and similar studies point to the need for professionals who interview children in child sexual abuse cases to be well trained.  Interviews should be kept to a minimum if there is suspicion that the child has been sexually victimized, and the child should be believed when they say, "I don't remember."       


The Science of Pornography Addiction

This well done You Tube video literally illustrates how watching pornography on the internet acts like a drug to effect the neurotransmitters in our brain.  In a lighthearted way, the author educates us about today's internet addictions.  It is definitely worth watching since pornography is now being viewed routinely by millions of people all over the worldEach of us must monitor what we allow into our mind through our sense gates -- seeing as well as hearing, tasting, touching, and smelling.  What we let us does have an impact on us over time because we tend toward obsessing over things that bring a momentary pleasurable escape from reality but have huge negative consequences.

 The Power of Connection

This human development experiment at Harvard illustrates how finely tuned we enter the world.  As the baby in Dr. Tronick's experiment becomes more aware that her mother is no longer interacting with her, she tries to regain the connection.  When she is unable to reconnect, she becomes distressed, contorts her body, and cries out.  As the mother again atunes with the baby's communication, she is soothed.  We become conditioned in infancy and childhood to appreciate atunement with others. 

We need human connection to thrive and we want to stay emotionally connected.  When we are in tune with the people in our environment, we feel open and confident we can handle our lives well.  When we begin to feel disconnected we start to close down emotionally out of fear of the disconnect and move from the "we" plan to the "me" plan.  In this distressed state we flip into red light, closed communication patterns that really disconnect us as we complain, blame and retaliate.  

We are connection seekers but in truth we are already connected.  The "optical delusion of consciousness" that we are separate blinds us to this ultimate truth.  The power of human connection is the internal generator that opens us to the reality of the basic goodness of our world.  It's power should never be underestimated as it is our fundamental state.  We cause the disconnect by our mindless, habituated response to pain.  As Einstein says we must free ourselves from this self-created prison by widening our circle of compassion for each other by seeing that we all suffer in the same ways, all across this big, blue ball we call our world.         

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